How are y’all doing? Before anything I’ld like to say a BIG thank you to all of you that hop on my blog every time!! The outpour of love has been so unreal sometimes i want to think issalie but i get alert (notification) so Godwin!! There is a secret spill at the end of the post;)
Onto today’s post.
My whatsapp status most times is always this quote below (because I barely read people’s statuses so I assume everyone is like me + no energy)
Reduce emotional and intellectual noise until you arrive at the silence of yourself, then listen to it.
I can’t remember where I found this quote from but it’s just forever deep (I think).
What do you really think of yourself?
let’s talk about me for a second
*but really we stay winning*
People who have known me since way back know I always did a “fringe” or “bangs” every time I made my hair. Why? You must already know – That glorious forehead of mine has a way of stealing the attention off me.
When I’m stressed, my veins pop out and then people be like “OMG Lade are you alright? What’s going on with you..that can’t be normal”. And I’m just like can you shut up please? Smh
I’m the official president of the itty bitty titty community (any members here?? Wave your hands like you just don’t care)
people goats have told me to my face that I’m not a real woman (I’m not even kidding ).
All these to say the least about perfect imperfect fleek (I had to) self. I would also think on all these things and just
hate dislike these parts of me.
This was the norm until I realised that the root of this is was wanting to be accepted by others and well that’s just wrong. That’s how my journey of self love started. I’m currently on top of that and I think I’m a little obsessed with myself. LOL
Here are a few things that have helped me to silence the negative and just love up.
1. Focus on your many positive qualities.
Focus on your strengths, your abilities, and your admirable traits. Let go of harsh judgments, comparisons to others, and self-hatred.
When you can see yourself as the soulful person you are, the damaging internal dialogue doesn’t hold up.
2. Feel the love within you and be that love.
Spend more time focusing on self-love. You can try loving and positive affirmations. Nourish your soul through a love-kindness meditation that help you feel compassion towards yourself.
I tell myself how amazing I am too often. No it’s not weird.
3. Give yourself a break.
You’re not perfect. No one is. You don’t have to be at the top of your game every day. No one is happy all the time. No one loves themselves always. No one lives without pain. Embrace your imperfections and excuse your bad days. Don’t set such high standards for yourself emotionally and mentally. It’s normal to feel sadness and pain and to hit some low points in life.
Prior to my current hair (the curly weave in these pictures), I can’t remember when last I did bangs…In other news, my forehead be slaying!
4. Embrace yourself.
Are you content being alone by yourself without feelings of anxiety, fear, and judgment? You may have to go within and seek solace in yourself to be comfortable in your own skin. Practice moments of alone time and be aware of how you treat yourself.Learn to embrace solitude and allow yourself to be mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about yourself.
The way I enjoy my me time is unexplainable. I literally don’t want no disturbance.
Sharing your feelings with supportive friends may also help you be more aware of who you are.
The process of loving yourself starts with understanding your true nature.
So make a conscious decision today to love yourself because 👇
PS: My hair here is a wig i made myself!!! And I’m def making more wigs because really, I’ve been enjoying having my hair breathe at the days end.
now the secret. OK it’s not actually a secret but you know the way we Nigerians are set up? Everybody travels lowkey…. all on top say make witches no plan for you Lmao but being the daughter of the Most High, Ain’t got no worries *swerve*
Anyway I’m going to Lagos about a week agoooooo 💃💃💃. I’m so excited because I was almost not going to go again but Godwin 😂😂 I can’t wait to meet so many people in real life( OK I can wait, sometimes I’m shy)
That’s it for today!! *whew* Until next time beautiful people. Stay loved up.;)❤
L. A. D. E
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